I think people don’t know how to listen without going black or white about something. People who aren’t big fans of drugs or meds for mental health like myself will never recommend you to stop taking your medication right away. What we do want, however, is to make you aware of the research that exposes how people in my field – Psychology, and others such as psychiatry, and medicine – keep getting rich at your expense. We will never tell you that stopping your medication immediately is the way to go. We only want to tell you about publication bias and scientific corruption. We want to let you know how the whole world has been prevented from knowing the Truth, and how society became blind in front of people who wear white coats. To know more about this, you can find all the research and data you need in the book “Lost Connections” by Johann Hari, which I strongly recommend.
As someone who struggles with her own wellbeing and knows a fair bit about Mental Health History, I find it sad how people conform to victimhood. I don’t even want to talk about the overuse of labels as the only way to get “love” from others, but you know what I’m talking about! I would be lying if I said that I never caught myself benefiting from the attention we get when we are sick. I don’t mean we do it deliberately, because more often than not we don’t. We do it unconsciously, we do it without the awareness of our deepest intentions, because we socially learned that people feel morally and emotionally obligated to kindly treat those who are sick.
No, don’t stop your meds right away because your system is by now already high on them and you would go through a process of withdrawal, just like it happens with any other chemical habituation. Do try though to look out for different answers that can actually release you from the suffering you face everyday. Make peace with your childhood, get sunshine, connect with others, get a job that gives you joy, meditate, create, go into the woods, dare to dream. You see, we need to correct our way of living, that’s where most problems start. Drugs can’t do that for you. They might help you survive daily, but you won’t be feeling whole and you won’t know what wellbeing feels like because psychotropics mess with your ability to feel emotions.
My take on mental health and wellbeing has been, for a long time now, the claim that we need to mend our collective consciousness and be humans once again because, believe it or not, we lost the connection with our humanness. That’s why we live miserably with the world literally in our pocket. That’s why we skip through the days and week after week feeling drained and empty. Yes, some of us are already aware of how important self-care and wellbeing are to mental health. Some don’t know or choose to ignore. Our social and institutional structures have programmed us to be more like robots and less like humans. For instances, it seems like you are not allowed to have a meltdown after losing someone you love, and you shouldn’t be depressive for so long even after being bullied at work.
It’s time to wake up and stop tolerating the idea that “it’s life” and that there is nothing we can do about it. It’s time to stop the disempowerment of people who probably grew up believing that there was something really wrong with their brains and way of responding to life. I have been one of those. The ugly truth is that we, as human beings, have been evolving in a climate of uncertainty and where being authentically human seems dangerous or unacceptable. Many of us were told that it is wrong to feel sad or angry. Many of us were told that it is wrong to be ourselves, because the system wants us to be who they want us to be – obeying sheep.
It’s time to claim back our natural way of being. I don’t mean it’s time to be cavemen again. I don’t mean it’s time to get rid of technology and all sorts of pharmaceuticals. I’m saying that it’s time to become conscious of where we are right now. It’s time to really pay attention and reflect consciously on the way we have been taught to live life. It’s time to immerse ourselves more in nature and it’s time to be really present when we sit next to someone. It’s time to see that we barely breathe and our shoulders and neck get so tight that it’s impossible to avoid a headache. It’s time to be, because when we simply are, life automatically changes for the best.