An Unpopular Opinion On Mental Health & Wellbeing


I think people don’t know how to listen without going black or white about something. People who aren’t big fans of drugs or meds for mental health like myself will never recommend you to stop taking your medication right away. What we do want, however, is to make you aware of the research that exposes how people in my field – Psychology, and others such as psychiatry, and medicine – keep getting rich at your expense. We will never tell you that stopping your medication immediately is the way to go. We only want to tell you about publication bias and scientific corruption. We want to let you know how the whole world has been prevented from knowing the Truth, and how society became blind in front of people who wear white coats. To know more about this, you can find all the research and data you need in the book “Lost Connections” by Johann Hari, which I strongly recommend.

As someone who struggles with her own wellbeing and knows a fair bit about Mental Health History, I find it sad how people conform to victimhood. I don’t even want to talk about the overuse of labels as the only way to get “love” from others, but you know what I’m talking about! I would be lying if I said that I never caught myself benefiting from the attention we get when we are sick. I don’t mean we do it deliberately, because more often than not we don’t. We do it unconsciously, we do it without the awareness of our deepest intentions, because we socially learned that people feel morally and emotionally obligated to kindly treat those who are sick.

No, don’t stop your meds right away because your system is by now already high on them and you would go through a process of withdrawal, just like it happens with any other chemical habituation. Do try though to look out for different answers that can actually release you from the suffering you face everyday. Make peace with your childhood, get sunshine, connect with others, get a job that gives you joy, meditate, create, go into the woods, dare to dream. You see, we need to correct our way of living, that’s where most problems start. Drugs can’t do that for you. They might help you survive daily, but you won’t be feeling whole and you won’t know what wellbeing feels like because psychotropics mess with your ability to feel emotions.

My take on mental health and wellbeing has been, for a long time now, the claim that we need to mend our collective consciousness and be humans once again because, believe it or not, we lost the connection with our humanness. That’s why we live miserably with the world literally in our pocket. That’s why we skip through the days and week after week feeling drained and empty. Yes, some of us are already aware of how important self-care and wellbeing are to mental health. Some don’t know or choose to ignore. Our social and institutional structures have programmed us to be more like robots and less like humans. For instances, it seems like you are not allowed to have a meltdown after losing someone you love, and you shouldn’t be depressive for so long even after being bullied at work.

It’s time to wake up and stop tolerating the idea that “it’s life” and that there is nothing we can do about it. It’s time to stop the disempowerment of people who probably grew up believing that there was something really wrong with their brains and way of responding to life. I have been one of those. The ugly truth is that we, as human beings, have been evolving in a climate of uncertainty and where being authentically human seems dangerous or unacceptable. Many of us were told that it is wrong to feel sad or angry. Many of us were told that it is wrong to be ourselves, because the system wants us to be who they want us to be – obeying sheep.

It’s time to claim back our natural way of being. I don’t mean it’s time to be cavemen again. I don’t mean it’s time to get rid of technology and all sorts of pharmaceuticals. I’m saying that it’s time to become conscious of where we are right now. It’s time to really pay attention and reflect consciously on the way we have been taught to live life. It’s time to immerse ourselves more in nature and it’s time to be really present when we sit next to someone. It’s time to see that we barely breathe and our shoulders and neck get so tight that it’s impossible to avoid a headache. It’s time to be, because when we simply are, life automatically changes for the best.

30 Comments

  1. Love this post! I totally agree about living lives in our pockets and being almost repressed to feel things like break ups or the hurt of bullies. Thank you for sharing x

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  2. This is a wonderful post! I’d been looking forward to reading it. Lately, I’ve been very interested in labels and the way we bind ourselves to them, making them part of our identity (whether they’re diagnoses, lifestyle choices or whatever else). When I was deep in mental illness, something I noticed again and again was my attachment to my own pain. I wanted so much to be happy again, but on some level was refusing to let go. Seeing this in myself was tough, but was an important step in moving out of that place. Thank you for sharing your thoughts- your opinions are popular with me! x

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    1. Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appreciated it! It put a smile on my face. I can look up some articles on how we (over)use labels if you want, they are usually quite boring as most academics are though 😅 What you say makes total sense and fits well with the process of social categorisation. I have been very worried about how people attach themselves to “BPD”, “depression”, “generalised anxiety”, etc, because the tendency is to go downwards with the label and narrow down the way they think about themselves. I’m happy you saw that in yourself and that you were willing to cast it away! It takes a lot of self-awareness. Thank you for sharing! x

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      1. I’m glad 🙂 Thanks for offering to look up some articles- I’d be interested to understand it from an academic perspective. Maybe you could point me in the direction of a good google search?? Don’t want to create extra work for you. Yeah, I definitely had the sense that taking certain labels on could give me a kind of tunnel vision and may have made it harder to detach from the illness. Thanks so much for the reply, appreciate it 🙂 x

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  3. You know people usually take their mental health for granted initially and when things get really worse they start working on it.
    Being a Mental Health Advocate, it cringes me when I get cases where people undergo stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, and mental illness!
    My best piece of advice to them is start working on your emotions and then I help them to get out of their mental health illness and eventually reduce their stigma!
    We all experience mental health struggle at some point in our lives and to improve one’s mental health, I’ve written an article, where I’ve covered 7 Emotions to take care of if you have to improve your mental health.

    Do take a read and let me know what you feel. http://thesoultalks10.com/how-to-improve-your-mental-health-in-2019/

    Have a great day!

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    1. Hi Piyush,
      Thank you for sharing your experience with us. That strategy seems to be great and one I subscribe to. I’m glad you have such care for people and you’re helping them with emotional awareness. Your article seems quite interesting, I will visit it later this weekend and comment in there. Have an awesome weekend! ☀️

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  4. This post resonated with me on many different levels and I feel grateful to have found it. I’m definitely following you and looking forward to more of your perspective. Thank you for sharing!

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  5. I do understand the idea that you have to actively seek a positive mindset, but I also think that diagnosis and medication have an important role in improvement. No matter how hard I worked in therapy, and how positive I was, I struggled to make further progress with my anxiety. Now that I’m on medication, my physical symptoms like shaking and palpitations are under control, and I finally get to feel relaxed. There is something to be said for both.

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    1. Thank you for your feedback, I really appreciate it! I’ve checked yours, it’s a really insightful article and with lots of options to explore and take good care of our mental health. Thank you for sharing and for coming by! ❤

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  6. Great post. I love your honesty especially as practicing psychologist. The last psychologist held your same views which set me on a path of healing…hence why he was my last❤️❤️❤️

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  7. Sorry, but I think many of your views are exactly what leads so many people to be dissatisfied with the mental health system. You can’t get proper help from people who don’t truly understand what mental health disorders are.

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