Everyone seems to be talking about energy vampires these days, making it already sound a bit redundant, but intuitive empaths can benefit a lot from getting all the information they can on them. Energy vampires are incredibly similar to Harry Potter’s dementors: they literally suck the positive energy out of you, leaving you drained and depleted. Although not necessarily mean in their nature, energy vampires have an incredible capacity to lower your energy level. It’s like they refill their cup of energy by regurgitating and dumping negatively charged stories on you, without even allowing you some time to catch up with your breath.
I don’t mind talking to people at all, in fact, I love listening to people. I struggle a lot, however, when I meet energy vampires. Since I can rarely find a way to excuse myself, I feel morally obligated to give every ounce of my attention to the person who is in front of me talking non-stop about themselves and their life problems. I often think they probably don’t have many people who will effectively listen to them, so for many years I thought I had to fill in that role for them. It’s a rookie mistake, let me tell you beforehand, because the vampire will never walk out from a conversation fully satisfied and you will literally, more often than not, feel like poo.
And what do I and some other intuitive empaths do when we feel drained after such encounters? We start eating mindlessly as a way to restore our energy! I found this little problem to be true once again in a recent birthday party I attended. There was a very nice lady in the party who couldn’t stop talking for a second and once her eyes crossed mine, I saw little escape. I handle the first hour of conversation well, leveraging it up with humour and laughs, but then it simply became too much and I had no room to hide – only a table in front of me, full of sweets and savoury treats.
In between yawns, I caught myself reaching out for food to stay awake. I was overloaded. I couldn’t even smile or laugh anymore. I let myself get trapped by her narrative and food was certainly the tastiest distraction. Letting myself over indulge in food was, nonetheless, going against my weight loss goal so as soon as I got a chance I made a move. By dinner time, the only place left for me to sit was next to same person I had moved away from, but instead of worrying about how bad would it look like to reject it, I simply put myself first and waited for a better sit.
I think the best way to deal with energy vampires is to set clear boundaries, but more often than not the situation is already awkward enough to simply voice out: hey, you have to excuse me, but I’m feeling drained and, guess what, you’re the reason why. So walking away may well be the best option at times and I don’t feel so bad anymore for doing it when I have to. It was hard in the beginning to overcome a certain sense of guilt and powerlessness over my energy depletion, but over time it became a choice between my own health and other people’s comfort. I need to keep my energy in a good level because I know I have the tendency to engage in overeating as a way to compensate for low energy.