Finding “Home” Through The Power of Intuition

The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.

Gisele Bundchen

Are you happy?

I know, this is a difficult question to start with. Many people talk about happiness, but how often do we really reflect on whether we are happy and satisfied with the life we lead? What is happiness after all? It is such an abstract concept and it can mean so many different things to so many different people. My concept of happiness has changed over the years. Happiness is no longer a target, a place, a person, or a result. Happiness is the way; it became part of reality itself. It is always available because I no longer equate happiness with a distant destination. I now see it as a state that may fluctuate in intensity but is always present and available as long as I consciously choose to tap into it.

I can’t say this is the best way to approach life. I know, however, that changing my perception of happiness has helped me reduce suffering and unnecessary misery. I now choose to look at my thoughts and emotions as a constant stream or flow of energy. They come and they go, and I have the switch to manage this flow. It’s under my control to create peaceful thoughts and emotions. It’s up to me to remind myself that you have to have some rain to see a rainbow in the sky, and you ought to experience the bad in order to savor and value the goodness.

Can you imagine if we were happy all the time? It would be a utopia and we would miss much of what the human experience entails. At the same time, I don’t believe we are meant to suffer endlessly and just for the sake of learning and repenting. That’s an old misinterpretation of the meaning of suffering, much imposed and spread by religion in general. The old stories tell us that man fell out of paradise due to sinful actions and, therefore, we are all “stuck” on Earth, paying for it. This sounds very sadistic to me and far from the why we are here. We do experience, however, high contrasts throughout life. They are not meant to punish us but to allow us to learn and outgrow life’s challenges and lead us to find our way “home”.

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And what is “home”? Home is that beautiful place in which you are who you are, fearlessly, and where you feel safe to follow and pursue your intuition and inner voice. We have been disconnected from our inner wisdom and conditioned by a social system that demands blind obedience to a set of rules, norms, and traditions in the name of social cohesion. To follow this system, you must be disconnected from your own needs and natural aspirations, which can only speak to you through intuition, that gentle inner voice that you were made to believe to be wrong or silly. It is about time that we reconnect with that voice though.

To put it in another way, it is time to be you. It is time to witness the incredible connection between your thoughts, emotions, and actions as well as the feeling of being whole. Once we realize everything is deeply connected and interwoven, that our energy influences others and vice-versa, our perception of reality shifts, and we start opening ourselves to the idea and feeling of being individually empowered. When we have such experience, we become rooted in our own energy field and flow. We stop perceiving ourselves as limited and separated beings. We realize we are part of something much, much bigger, and that we can feel at “home” by tapping into it.

After so many years looking for where home was, I now find it in this connection with the whole. Some call it nature. Others call it God. The Universe. It doesn’t matter what you decide to call it or feel more comfortable with. The key is to go within, quiet your inner world, and find that intuitive voice. That voice has great power and it can show you the next set of steps you need to make. As we keep learning to listen and tune into it, the feeling of “home” becomes more and more anchored in the present moment. Eventually, it becomes our default mode.

So, let’s go back to my initial question. Are you happy? Don’t answer it based on what society, culture, or family told you happiness was. Find your own meaning of happiness by looking within and by paying attention to your intuition, which is a subtler form of intelligence. Ask questions, and listen quietly. What makes your life worthwhile? What makes you feel alive? Turn the world off for a moment and go within. Find your home by connecting with your intuition.

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What is the H.A.L.T. Method? A Psychological Guide to Stop Running on Empty

Self-management, therefore, is all about becoming your own leader by training your mental, physical, social, and intellectual faculties in different ways.

Dr. Prem Jagyasi

Whether you have to make a small or big decision, all decisions can look difficult and daunting when your psychology is not in the best shape. To prevent us from making bad decisions, we should avoid committing to a decision whenever we are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. The combination of these four conditions is known as the H.A.L.T. method, and it is especially recommended for people who are going through recovery or considering some sort of life change.

Hunger, anger, loneliness, and tiredness are states that affect both our physiology and psychology. They are also of special relevance to the highly sensitive person as physiological and psychological changes tend to be experienced more intensely by those who have a more sensitive nervous system. The H.A.L.T. method can be, however, very useful to anyone who seeks to prevent the cumulative negative effects of overstimulation, the experience of burnout, or relapse into unhealthy habits.

To apply this method, you will have to become more aware of your internal states and well-being habits. For instance, if you can’t recognize when your body is lacking proper nutrients, or if you can’t notice you are experiencing anger, then it will be difficult to know when it is time to stop and practice the H.A.L.T. method. To raise your awareness and effectively spot the first signs of H.A.L.T., you can either learn to practice mindfulness or start journaling. These activities will help you be more in tune with your body and mind, enabling you to track thoughts, emotions, and sensations more easily and quickly.

It is also worth mentioning that these four states can be interrelated and influence each other. When you have a poor night’s sleep, you are more likely to feel angry and tired. When you are too many hours in a row without eating properly, your psychology starts to suffer, and you become more susceptible to feeling drained and experiencing negative emotions.

Let’s now have a closer look into each component of the H.A.L.T. method.

Hunger

When you are hungry, it is a sign that your body is lacking immediate energy to fuel you. You also get more easily distracted and prone to errors. Make sure you start your day with a good, nutritious, and balanced breakfast. Pair some protein with a source of complex carbs (e.g. oatmeal), and pay attention to your body and mind to know the frequency you should eat something. Give way to healthy snacks such as fruit, seeds, or nuts. This will help you keep your blood sugar levels stable.

Anger

Anger is not an emotion we should suppress or avoid at all costs. It can be a valid response to a situation or experience. However, misplaced, uncontrolled, or unjustified anger is not only bad for your mental health, but also for people who interact with you and become a target of your anger. If you experience anger, try to manage it in a healthy way by inquiring about what can be its root cause and finding helpful ways to express it. Finding a creative hobby can help.

Loneliness

Loneliness can make people feel afraid, empty, and rejected. Out of fear of being alone, people can make decisions that don’t hold their best interests at heart in the long term. They may stay in abusive relationships or engage in addictive behaviors that can distract them from what they feel. It is ok to need other people’s presence and attention. Just make sure you are aware of what you need at the moment and that you seek healthy ways to fulfill it.

Tiredness

Tiredness can be a consequence of the states already mentioned or a factor on its own. Not having enough food or experiencing emotional havoc can leave you drained and tired. Overworking yourself and not having enough sleep can also contribute to you feeling tired. In the long term, tiredness leads to poor memory, bad decision-making, and poor health. Make sure you either include time to unwind and recharge or you improve the quality of your sleep. Improving nutrition and reducing stimulants can help you a great deal. You can also try grounding for a quick and direct rebalance of your energy field.

Concluding Thoughts

Being mindful of the first signs you are experiencing hunger, anger, loneliness, or tiredness can improve your decision-making and well-being a great deal. By paying attention to the first signs, you are able to manage and correct them before they are aggravated and exert a negative influence on your daily life. Seek healthy ways to stay physically satisfied and emotionally stable. Improving your nutrition, sleep, and finding creative outlets to express your emotions are only a few examples of strategies you may find useful.

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The ego-mind is very likely to play tricks on us and unless we learn to master its game we can’t go very far. We will keep relapsing and breaking the promises we make to ourselves and others. It’s a tough job; it’s hard work really but you must become acquainted with the way the mind functions so that you can remove what’s preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself. You have to tame your mind by working on your mindset and programing your day-to-day routine so that you can be on top of your game.

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Who is the Highly Sensitive Person?

I have been told I’m sensitive since I was a child. My dad used to call me “greenhouse flower” and although it may sound nice at first it really wasn’t because it meant I was not like everybody else. Today I understand I wasn’t like everybody else, I was a highly sensitive child, who had to deal with high sensitivity alone and who eventually learned being sensitive was a nuisance rather than a particular mode of being and witnessing the world. I could sense other people’s moods, I got startled easily, and a slightly raised voice would feel like thunder in my brain. I’d be on edge if I had to remain or walk among a big crowd.

Since my perception of the world didn’t seem to resonate with the perception of my family and later of my school peers, I tried my best to suppress my sensitivity and look stronger than I was, both mentally and emotionally. This cost me a great deal of emotional impairment and a weaker ability to face life struggles. The Highly Sensitive Person is born with a more sensitive nervous system, which makes them much more susceptible to stimuli and strong psychological experiences. According to Dr. Elaine Aron, high sensitivity is present in at least 15 to 20% of all higher animal species such as horses, monkeys, and dogs.

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People with this characteristic are usually visionaries, artists, and inventors. They care a great deal about social change and living a more conscious life. On another hand, highly sensitives are also easily disturbed and prone to feeling overwhelmed to the point of burnout. Since their nervous system is more sensitive to stimuli, they also take more time to recover and need a greater amount of rest. Although the majority are introverts, we can also find extroverts with this characteristic. In fact, extroverts can have a harder time perceiving and accepting their high sensitivity since they are more comfortable around others and when engaging in group activities.

A good way to understand more about the peculiarities of the highly sensitive person is to delve into what Dr. Elaine Aron calls “D.O.E.S.”, an acronym that describes the main characteristics of highly sensitives: Depth of processing, Overstimulation, Emotional reactivity (or empathy), and sensitivity to Subtleties. Let’s what each of these characteristics means in the context of the highly sensitive person:

Depth of Processing

Highly sensitives process stimuli and information more deeply thanks to the sensitivity of their nervous system. They are more susceptible to what surrounds them and what is happening inside their mind and heart. They are keen on establishing connections between what they are experiencing now and what they have experienced in the past. This allows them to form deeper connections and links between different sources of information. The cost of this characteristic is that highly sensitives are slower at decision making.

Overstimulation

As a consequence of their depth of processing, highly sensitives are prone to overstimulation and need to be extra careful with their energy management and the length of exposure to different stimuli. Many highly sensitives can endure a full day of hiking but the chance of having any energy left to go to the pub after dinner are quite short. This occurs because the highly sensitive person absorbs the richness of each experience at a greater level of depth. As a result, they will feel tired and need to rest.

Empathy

Highly sensitives have an intense emotional world in the sense that they react much more to both negative and positive stimuli than the average person does. News reporting violence or appealing to negative emotions such as fear has a strong negative impact on a highly sensitive person’s well-being. Whereas highly sensitive people can benefit a great deal from positive interventions, they can also be easy targets of distraught and upset.

Subtleties

If there is something that highly sensitives are good at is reading between the lines and interpreting nonverbal cues. This is mostly accurate when they are thriving and not burned out. If they are overwhelmed, it is likely that they won’t be able to process much, whether it’s something obvious or subtle. Overstimulation can happen as a consequence of being sensitive to subtleties. The benefit of this characteristic is that they can get a lot of pleasure from the simplest gifts of life such as watching a sunrise or a child giggling.

Concluding Thoughts

Although being a highly sensitive person may feel like a curse or a nuisance, there is great strength in accepting what makes us unique. There are times in which my high sensitivity puts me in dark, complex places, but there are also many times in which it leads me to the most wonderful people, situations, and adventures. I believe we can do a lot of good to the world as long as we learn to first manage our needs and sensitivity. Learning to be assertive, when to say no, and just make a pause to rest are some of the skills we need to master in order to thrive n a world that is fast-paced and often emotionally dry.

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