At the end of the day, we are all children in a grown-up body. We hurt each other not because we want to but because we have unresolved issues. We may know better but we can't act on it when we are overwhelmed, scared or stressed out. Some people had it easier and they learnt in their early years how to gain internal control and thrive. Others weren't so lucky and need to learn how to reprogram themselves from scratch. This requires a tremendous self-discipline and courage to go deeper within to face all the inner demons left inside.