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5 Ideas to Make Your Life Better Right Now

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Sometimes, small changes or habits can have a great impact on the way we perceive life and the way we feel about something distressful that might have happened to us. Whether you are going through a rough patch or you are simply interested in improving the quality of your life, there are practical ideas you can adopt right now to uplift your mood and increase your well-being. Here are five ideas you can use to make your life better right now:

1. Do 3 Jumping Jacks

Change your physiology and you will change the way you feel. When we exercise, we produce a special range of hormones that gives us that good feeling experience we all need to get out of a rough patch.

2. Let Go of The Victim Mentality

Comparing yourself or asking unhelpful questions such as “Why me?” can only prevent you from growing and going after your goals. Learn from what you have been experiencing and empower yourself by putting it to good use. You may also want to read the article “What is holding you back? Four Major Psychological Roadblocks” and “3 unrealistic expectations that are making you miserable“.

3. List 5 Reasons To Be Grateful for Today

Gratitude has become a buzz word but the effects of feeling grateful and finding gratitude even in small details of our days are undeniable. Gratitude can be the difference between feeling sorry for yourself when life is not going your way and feeling content for just being alive.

4. Set Up a Healthy Routine

If your routine is solely based on working, eating, and sleeping, then you might need to redesign it to add more well-being practices to your day. Add time for recreation but also time to work out or engage in some other meaningful activities such as volunteering locally, or baking for your best friend. You may also want to read the article “A Stoic Evening Routine for Success“.

5. Book a Call with a Coach

Life can seem and feel pretty overwhelming at times, especially if you are sensitive. It’s not only OK but advisable to ask for professional help. Working with a coach can be the turning point you are needing right now in your life. A coach is equipped to guide toward the right questions and best-fitting solutions. Could you and I be a great coaching team? Book a free call today to find out.

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Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

The 4 Jewels of Well-being

According to neuroscientist Richard Davidson, well-being is a skill, and it can be developed with practice. It’s like learning to walk or playing the piano. The more you practice it, the more you strengthen the neuronal circuits associated with well-being, and the better you get at it. These neuronal circuits are plastic and thus can be expanded and trained. They are awareness, connection, insight, and purpose.

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The 6 Paradoxical Human Needs

Anthony Robbins suggests there are 6 human core needs. He divides these needs into personality needs and spiritual needs. Within the personality ones, he identifies the needs for certainty and uncertainty, the need for significance, and the need for love and connection. As for spiritual needs, Anthony talks about the need for growth and the need for grounding. Although it’s not an extensive categorization of human needs, this framework makes sense to me and it is a simple way to start to get to know ourselves a little bit more.

How can a person need certainty and uncertainty at the same time? It’s part of our dual nature and the reason why we say these needs are “paradoxical”.

The peculiarity of these pairs of needs is that they contradict each other on a surface level. How can a person need certainty and uncertainty at the same time? It’s part of our dual nature and the reason why we say these needs are “paradoxical”. I believe the more we accept our own duality, the more we can accept ourselves, especially when we feel restless and confronted with the polarity of our needs. Let’s have a closer look at them.

The Need for Certainty and The Need for Uncertainty

We like to have some control over our life and work. Imagine how stressed you would feel if I told you that tomorrow morning you need to pack all your office stuff and leave. Or imagine you return home just to find a notice saying your building is about to be demolished in one week. How much would your life suddenly change thanks to this unpredicted news? We do like to have some predictability. We need some of it to remain sane. However, we also like to be surprised from time to time. We like to feel the mystery of the unknown and have some unexpected (good) news knocking on our door.

The Need for Individuality and The Need for Connection

We want to feel and be seen as unique, special, or even one of a kind. We want to be acknowledged for our personal talents and our own character. We want our individual experiences to be validated. However, we also want to connect with others and be part of a group. We want to have a sense of belongingness and be part of the whole.

The Need for Growth and the Need for Grounding

We have a natural tendency to want to develop ourselves. Our human curiosity is present in us from a very early age. Just think about all those babies who look at the world for the first time. Their eyes screen reality with intense curiosity and admiration. As we grow up, such curiosity takes different shapes and forms, but it remains within us, making us expand in different areas of life. But while we may have the need to grow, expand and learn new things, we also have the need to ground ourselves, to have a reference and core sense of who we are. We like to have some inner experience which we can call “home” and come back to it whenever we need to.

Concluding Thoughts

All human beings have needs. Some needs seem to be universal, and there are needs that even seem to be conflicting with each other. Tony Robbins believes the 6 human needs above are the main human behavior drivers. It’s a simple approach to human needs yet it can be useful to help us think about what motivates us and what might be missing in our life.

Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

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Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.

Dalai Lama

People have demoted me from the pursuit of happiness more times than I can count. They either say happiness is impossible to achieve, or they tell me I’m a hopeless fantasy seeker. At the end of the day, these are two different ways of saying exactly the same. Yet, if we believe each negative situation has a hidden positive intention, then I must say people demote fantasy seekers like me because they either don’t want us to get hurt, or they want to shake off their failed attempts at being happy.

We all wish for happiness and the world would be a better place if we were taught about it in school.

The funny thing is that people also disdain me when I’m unhappy, grumpy, or less energetic. This somehow proves that you will never be able to please Greeks and Trojans. So what shall you do? I think you should follow your heart and what you believe to be true, but if you worry about whether happiness is a realistic goal or not I can assure you that it is not only realistic as well as possible and desirable. We all wish for happiness and the world would be a better place if we were taught about it in school.

If you look at Hawkins’ Scale of Consciousness, you will see that joy and happiness are closer to enlightenment than anger and shame. This scale was developed by David Hawkins thanks to a set of muscle testing and kinesiology measures. According to Hawkins, consciousness can be conceived as a multi-staged continuum of vibrational frequencies, with 1 being simply alive and 1000 in an advanced state of enlightenment. As it’s only natural, our level of consciousness can fluctuate and change due to multiple variables: what we eat, who we hang out with, and how we think are only a few examples.

Learning about what makes you happy and including more of that in your life is something that is far from silly. It is mandatory if you want to raise your consciousness and help humanity evolve as a kinder species.

For those who are interested in raising their consciousness, happiness is a realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness. For instance, Horror films used to be my favorite genre of movies but I can’t watch them anymore because I don’t like the way I feel and think afterward. I no longer listen to heavy metal as I used to for the same reason.

I also like to plan my day and activities to make sure I manage my energy to the best of my ability. This allows me to experience a greater level of consciousness throughout the day and be a better person for myself and others. I know this can be a different and odd way to approach self-organization and life in general but I learned the hard way what is best for me and how I can be the best version of myself on a more regular basis. As a Sensitive person, I can only handle a certain amount of stimulation before I get tired and drained so I take energy management very seriously.

The pursuit of happiness is part of my toolbox to cope and recover my energy level. I like to add to my days what makes me feel good, not from a pure hedonistic point of view, but from a soul level. The list includes daily walks, listening to motivational talks, enjoying my surroundings, paying attention to natural motifs, reading a useful book chapter, and having a peaceful moment with coffee in the morning. As such, learning about what makes you happy and including more of that in your life is something that is far from wrong or silly. It is mandatory if you want to raise your consciousness and help humanity evolve as a kinder species.

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What Is Positive Psychology? The Science of Well-being

Positive Psychology is a field of study within Psychology that focuses and promotes well-being and happiness. One of its goals is to help people live and perform at their best by putting people’s strengths and virtues to work for themselves and their community. Although it’s a relatively recent field, Positive Psychology has embraced and researched topics that have been promoted through other psychology branches such as Humanistic and Transpersonal Psychology.

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