The other week I reviewed one of my non-fictional favorite movies. It might have been the third or fourth time I watched it, but it is amazing how we always find different nuggets of wisdom each time we watch or read something again. Elizabeth, the main character, has a story that always resonated with me. At first, I didn’t know why exactly but over the years I have gained clarity and insight into my own behavior and feelings around relationships.
Category Archives: Relationships
Codependent Families & Family Roles: What’s Yours?
In codependent families, it’s not unusual to find that each member assumes a certain role within the family dynamic. The role can change from time to time, depending on the family’s dynamic as a whole. Sometimes one family member may have more than one role. According to Wegscheider-Cruse, there are 5 different roles: the enabler, the hero, the lost child, the scapegoat, and the mascot. Although unhealthy, these roles have a survival value and they allow family members to experience less pain and stress on a daily basis.
Relationships As A Spiritual Practise
Life is about finding the right balance. That’s why a relationship can and should be a spiritual practice. If you don’t look after yourself, you can’t enjoy harmonious relationships with others. If you keep other people’s needs at bay, you can’t expect harmonious relationships with others either. In sum, we can’t run away from nature’s universal law of compensation: you get what you give. If you put others first and often disregard your own needs, others will mimic that. If you more often than not disregard other people’s needs, others will reflect that too. You need to find the right balance.