7 Traits of a Highly Sensitive Person

In this blog post I will share with you 7 common traits among highly sensitive people.

Today I came home earlier to run away (again) from dealing with an energy that I can only tolerate for a short while at the moment. This energy is a mix of anger, frustration, and an achy sense that I’m still the odd one out at the age of 29.

I reached out a friend when I arrived home and asked her “Why can’t we be like everyone else?”. There are these moments in which the blessing of sensitivity transforms itself into a really ugly and bad curse. Then all I know is that being a highly sensitive person (HSP) is too hard, too much, and too painful.

Being highly sensitive, we know what people feel, think, and intend without even knowing them. We can feel what others are going through, even if they are standing on the other side of the road and separated from us by a high fence. This happened to me last Saturday: I went to my office so I could record some YouTube videos. As usual, the building was empty. I suddenly started to feel very anxious for no reason. I realised then that the campus was getting crowded, full of students and families. Freshers were settling in and I could sense the anxiety and fear of students and their families. That’s why I was feeling overly anxious too.

The feeling got so intense that I could not record or do any work here on my blog. I packed my stuff, took a foot path to come back home, and spent a few hours working on my energy field until I felt like I was back to “normal”. This is why sometimes the blessing instantly becomes a curse. As you may guess this way of functioning can be very debilitating sometimes. We become overwhelmed and distressed not necessarily because something happens to us, but because it is our very own nature to be in tune with what and who is around us.

 

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I believe HSPs come to this “overwhelming stage” every once in a while because no one taught us how to manage our energy field. I still don’t know how to handle it sometimes and when that happens I think we feel really isolated, because the majority of people do not understand the way we perceive and sense reality, and therefore can not provide us with the right support.

For all this, I thought it would be helpful for me and others to write a little bit more about the traits of HSPs and explain them the best I can. If our differences make us feel weird, we might as well use them to empower us, so here are what I believe to be the seven most important traits of highly sensitive people.

1. We Are Aware of the Invisible

My favourite book, “The Little Prince”, has a passage which says “what is essential is invisible to the eye” and HSPs feel this to be very true. We can tell whenever there is something going wrong with someone because somehow we assimilate, even though unconsciously, certain signs and details that give us a lot of information about others.

2. We Can Read People

We can indeed read people because of what I explained in the previous point – the fact that we are aware of subtle forms of expression allows us to know what other people feel and even think. I believe this has simply to do with our awareness and I also think that anyone can become highly sensitive as long as there is some kind of training of one’s own level of awareness. That’s why people who start meditating or doing yoga often find themselves more sensitive and aware after some practise.

3. We Are Affected by Other People’s Mood

The fact that we have access to subtler forms of information makes us very sensitive to other people’s states and moods. More often than not we do not control this and I believe that the more we, as a society, learn and accept the way HSPs function, the more we can advance in terms of understanding and finding effective ways to use this ability on demand.

4. We Spend a Lot of Time in Our Heads

Most of us are born-observers and we use or learn to use telepathy a lot. There is a giant, complex and unique world inside each HSPs’ head and that’s why we get lost so often. If there is too much stimulation, we also struggle to stop our thoughts and “hypothesis” test in our minds. This is when we need to get out of our mind and get into our body.

5. Loud Noises, Strong Smells and Tastes are a Big No

I was never able to deal with perfumes, something that most women adore. I also always run away from drugstores and any supermarket’s detergent section. Abrupt noises also annoy me a lot and make my ears and head hurt. I think I’m not so affected by strong tastes, but that’s probably because I use food all the time. I’m very sensitive nonetheless to spices and I can have a hard time with even “mild” flavours.

6. The Experience of Being Hungry and Uncomfortable is Magnified

This is so true… the only time that either being hungry or uncomfortable do not bother me much is when I’m doing something I love such as writing this blog post. Right now, I’m hungry, but my wish to write is bigger than the discomfort of starvation. In most cases, however, whenever I’m hungry or uncomfortable I don’t seem to be able to tolerate it. If the problem is being hungry, I easily become “angry”. If the problem is being uncomfortable, the experience in itself becomes very painful and more often than not bruises or aches do follow it.

7. We Feel a Deep Urge For Being Creative

Our thoughts and feelings run so wildly that using creativity is often our favourite way to manage or balance our energy. From creative writing to painting, dancing, or any other form of creative expression, we do enjoy the feeling of expansion that such activities provide us. It is also a way for us to get “out” of our head and be more in our body.

 

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Sitting With Pain: Psychospiritual Meanings of Neck & Lower Back Pain

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For two days in a row, I have been sitting at my desk with a very spacey mind and a very achy body. While trying to relax yesterday in the office by doing some stretches, I managed to get a stiff neck. Coupled with my inflamed sciatic nerve, I can say I’m having the time of my life.

I can’t turn my head to the left and I can’t sit for long hours without a painful reminder on the right side of my lower back. I have been taking pain killers, which I don’t like at all, and instead of getting better it seems that my body is showing me the consequences of treating myself so poorly.

As spiritual as you might know I am, I dived deep into the web and searched for potential spiritual meanings of pain. I wasn’t very surprised when I read that pain might be a result of accumulated unhealed emotions and unforgiven hurts. I narrowed down my research to “neck pain” and “lower back pain”. In a nutshell, here is what I found out:

  • neck pain: it is usually related to taking too many responsibilities (check), having a hard time making decisions (check), and going in the wrong direction (check?)
  • lower back pain: fear for my survival (check), fear of losing freedom (check), fear of material loss (double check), feelings of not being supported enough (check), the belief that one has to “have it all” and not wanting to admit it (check!)

Now I’m indeed surprised with how all of these “symptoms” match with what I have been feeling over the last month. I believe that if the symptoms persist and the painkillers are not working, then I’m probably not doing a great job on managing the way I perceive and live life right now.

The astonishing truth is that deep inside I know I haven’t. There is still a lot of work to be done within. There is still a lot to learn – perhaps not so much intellectually but practically. I already know that prolonged negative emotions lead to dysfunction and physical manifestations. I guess what I don’t know yet is how to tame my own beliefs, emotions, and actions when everything becomes overwhelmingly confusing.

FITNESS-FRIDAY: Are You Doing These Mistakes?

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It takes a lot of courage and grit to make up your mind to take the bold step of changing the way you look and put your first step into the gym. The journey seems to be very long when you start calculating your BMI (Body Mass Index) on a regular basis. There are people who train their body or undertake body transformation programme only when they have some special occasions to attend. I wish they never run out of special occasions, so they never have to show their back to the gym. These are the lucky or not so lucky people who want to shed some pounds, but my point of discussion for today’s topic is for those people who have been working out since years and yet not gaining the shape they desire for.

People have been complaining that they have acquired enough strength to lift the iron but they fail miserably when it comes to flaunting their biceps. Probably one of the reasons for quitting. But, Lady or dude, if you’ve been working for more and more muscles but haven’t seen any gains, then these could be the possible reasons which are in the way of you and big muscles.

ERROR 1: You don’t eat enough.

Big muscles and the right food have a strong correlation between them. It is very important to fuel your body with the right amount nutrients.  That includes fat, carbs, protein etc. If you don’t eat enough then your body can’t use the calories for repair and growth. You cannot build a house without a strong foundation. Calculate your calorie percentage, the way you plan your body mass index. Plan your meals.

ERROR 2: You don’t take enough rest or sleep.

Less sleep is one of the main reasons for sore muscles. You need to recharge your body with the adequate amount of sleep for the complete recovery and growth of muscles. It has been advised and a proven fact that what you do in the gym doesn’t change if you don’t change what happens outside of it. Eight hours of sleep is a must.

ERROR 3: Your workout lacks diversity.

If you are doing the same routine over and over again, then there’s a good chance you’ll hit a plateau. It is very important to bring different variations in your routine. Try different angles, exercises and loads to give the shock to your muscles. Don’t allow your mind to convince your muscles with the same set of repetitions.

ERROR 4: Not lifting heavy weights.

Building muscles are equivalent to adding intensity to your workout. You cannot expect your biceps to grow only by lifting 20 pounds’ dumbbell. No matter how consistent you are, if you are not challenging yourself in your routine, you cannot build muscles. Push your grit for those 2 extra repetitions.

ERROR 5: You’re not drinking enough water.

Drinking an adequate amount of water is easy, and there’s no excuse why you cannot do it. Water is an elixir of life and it is very important for you to keep your body rehydrated all the time. Just take a bottle wherever you go and keep sipping out of it throughout the day. You cannot train your muscles if you are not properly hydrated.

ERROR 6: You’re not training your legs.

There’s nothing much to argue on this point. Leg training is hard, but essential for a well-developed physique. Squats are the building blocks of your upper body muscles. It also increases your bench strength. DO NOT SKIP THE LEG DAY.

Make few simple tweaks to your routine to start building muscle and melting fat. Good luck with reaching your goals. Hustle Hard.

 

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