The 6 Paradoxical Human Needs

Anthony Robbins suggests there are 6 human core needs. He divides these needs into personality needs and spiritual needs. Within the personality ones, he identifies the needs for certainty and uncertainty, the need for significance, and the need for love and connection. As for spiritual needs, Anthony talks about the need for growth and the need for grounding. Although it’s not an extensive categorization of human needs, this framework makes sense to me and it is a simple way to start to get to know ourselves a little bit more.

How can a person need certainty and uncertainty at the same time? It’s part of our dual nature and the reason why we say these needs are “paradoxical”.

The peculiarity of these pairs of needs is that they contradict each other on a surface level. How can a person need certainty and uncertainty at the same time? It’s part of our dual nature and the reason why we say these needs are “paradoxical”. I believe the more we accept our own duality, the more we can accept ourselves, especially when we feel restless and confronted with the polarity of our needs. Let’s have a closer look at them.

The Need for Certainty and The Need for Uncertainty

We like to have some control over our life and work. Imagine how stressed you would feel if I told you that tomorrow morning you need to pack all your office stuff and leave. Or imagine you return home just to find a notice saying your building is about to be demolished in one week. How much would your life suddenly change thanks to this unpredicted news? We do like to have some predictability. We need some of it to remain sane. However, we also like to be surprised from time to time. We like to feel the mystery of the unknown and have some unexpected (good) news knocking on our door.

The Need for Individuality and The Need for Connection

We want to feel and be seen as unique, special, or even one of a kind. We want to be acknowledged for our personal talents and our own character. We want our individual experiences to be validated. However, we also want to connect with others and be part of a group. We want to have a sense of belongingness and be part of the whole.

The Need for Growth and the Need for Grounding

We have a natural tendency to want to develop ourselves. Our human curiosity is present in us from a very early age. Just think about all those babies who look at the world for the first time. Their eyes screen reality with intense curiosity and admiration. As we grow up, such curiosity takes different shapes and forms, but it remains within us, making us expand in different areas of life. But while we may have the need to grow, expand and learn new things, we also have the need to ground ourselves, to have a reference and core sense of who we are. We like to have some inner experience which we can call “home” and come back to it whenever we need to.

Concluding Thoughts

All human beings have needs. Some needs seem to be universal, and there are needs that even seem to be conflicting with each other. Tony Robbins believes the 6 human needs above are the main human behavior drivers. It’s a simple approach to human needs yet it can be useful to help us think about what motivates us and what might be missing in our life.

Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

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How to Heal With the Four Elements

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I believe Nature is the mother of all Healing, and there have been plenty of research studies showing how practices such as earthing and walking in nature can benefit our well-being to a great deal. When we immerse ourselves in Nature, we also infuse ourselves with the four elements: air, water, fire, and earth. It’s no wonder why the countryside has been sought for so many to decompress and recharge batteries. Even medieval kings and queens were doing it before it became cool in the twentieth century.

I once came across a statement that made me realize, in a deep way, the value of healing with the elements. It read:

“Place your hands into soil to feel grounded. Wade in water to feel emotionally healed. Fill your lungs with fresh air to feel mentally clear. Raise your face to the heat of the sun and connect with that fire to heal your own immense power.”

Victoria Erickson

It may sound simple but healing can be quite simple indeed as long as you reconnect yourself with Nature. I’ve noticed and experienced the power of healing with the elements quite a few times over the past decade. I’m sure that if you sit down to reflect, you will also recall situations and experiences in which you have tapped into the power of the elements – and benefited from it.

Earth

One of the best memories I have, from when I was a kid, is being at my grandfather’s garden and sitting directly on the ground next to my cousin. We would play with the reddish soil around us and contemplate the big world from that lovely seat that nature had provided us with. The feelings I recall from this experience are safety and security.

Water

Before moving abroad, I started to realize the great impact that diving in the sea had on my mood and energy. Since then, I am always waiting for summertime and the chance to immerse myself in the sea. I come out lighter and more uplifted as if negative energy flows out of me and gets washed off by the salted water.

Air

Another thing that deeply changes my mood and disposition is seeing myself in an open space. The greener, the better. It really broadens up my mental horizons and helps me get perspective onto problems and life situations that need solutions.

Fire

I’m pretty much like a lizard. Whenever the sun is out, I love being outside and feeling it on my skin. I love getting a tan but the greatest thing about being exposed to sunlight is the feeling of being somehow “recharged” and “reenergized” by its healthy heat.

Concluding Thoughts

Nature has great healing power and we can tap into it by connecting and harnessing the energy of the four elements: air, earth, fire, and water. Whatever the element you connect more easily with, you can consciously make the choice of raising your awareness of these elements and build upon their healing properties. Watching and sitting next to a fireplace, enjoying a sea salt bath, or walking in the woods can be recharging and a source of renewal.

Why Decluttering Improves Your Well-Being

After going through a decluttering session, you are likely to feel clearer and more energetic. This is a process that not only improves our physical space but also our headspace. We have more space both physically and mentally, which in turn gives us a certain sense of freedom and clarity. Such experience eventually overflows to other areas of our life.

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The 7 Spiritual Laws Of Success

I have been reading a very interesting book called Quantum Success, written by Sandra Anne Taylor, and published by Hay House. I believe it is a powerful and insightful book for anyone who likes to read and learn more about the spiritual aspects of success, happiness, and wealth. The first part of the book describes and explains the seven laws of success which, according to the author, are transversal to any human endeavor. These laws are the law of Manifestation, the law of Magnetism, the law of Pure Desire, the law of Paradoxical Intent, the law of Harmony, the law of Right Action, and the law of Expanding Influence.

A powerful and insightful book for anyone who likes to read and learn more about the spiritual aspects of success, happiness, and wealth.

The Law of Manifestation

This law suggests that we create our own reality from our consciousness. This means that whatever happens in your life can be traced back to your own stream of consciousness and most people are not aware of such human capacity. In fact, many of us perceive reality as something totally random and out of our control. According to this law, we can manage our lives better if we consciously choose where our awareness and attention go. In other words, if we choose to prioritize what is truly important, and life-enhancing, then we are shaping and creating our future.

The Law of Magnetism

This law tells us that we attract the same type of energy we emit. This energy is imbued with what we think and feel about ourselves, and it is always flowing outward from us. We are continuously broadcasting information about ourselves and the way we perceive life. Based on the Law of Magnetism, it is within our control to change our energy. If we don’t like the situations or life events we attract, then we must pay attention to the signals we have been broadcasting and change our frequency in order to be more aligned and in tune with what we desire. To produce effective changes, there are three aspects to be aware of: your emotional energy (the vibration of your feelings), your cognitive energy (the vibration of your thoughts), and your physical energy (the vibration of your body).

The Law of Pure Desire

The Law of Pure Desire states that if your intention is pure and therefore not manipulative, fear-based, or desperate, then you are in the right energetic vibration to attract and manifest what you desire. Negative emotions and intentions cloud all the potential positive energy you hold toward the accomplishment of your goals and wishes. This happens because negative emotions tend to be more highly charged, a fact that has been demonstrated by science countless times. It has been even proposed that we need at least three positive emotions to counteract the impact of one negative.

The Law of Paradoxical Intent

This law resembles the previous one, the Law of Pure Desire. It suggests that the emotional state driven by the reason why we desire something dictates whether we will be successful or not. In other words, this means that if we desire something and yet we feel desperate about it, then we are generating a repulsive vibration and will push away the desired results. If we trust, however, we will generate a more peaceful vibration and therefore pull in the desired results.

The Law of Harmony

By consciously choosing to create balance and alignment in your life, your intuition and personal energy are almost automatically aligned with abundance, opportunities, and precious insight – or, what Jung called, synchronicities. When we are out of harmony, however, we remove ourselves from such a blissful current and we start to stagnate and find too many hardships. As you may guess, harmony starts with you and your daily choices in terms of thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The Law of Right Action

This is one of my favorite laws and, if you are familiar with Buddhism and more specifically with the Eightfold Path, it will ring a bell for sure. According to the Law of Right Action, every bad or good thought or action you engage with will become part of you and leave an impression in your energy field. In order to have a clear energy field, you must listen to your heart and look for the option which resonates with your own personal sense of dignity. It is not always easy to do what is right, but doing what is right is always the option that generates the best outcome for everyone involved.

The Law of Expanding Influence

As you now know from the previous laws, our vibration depends on the quality of our thoughts, emotions, and actions. The Law of Expanding Influence basically states that our vibration or resonance influences others and vice-versa. This means our thoughts, moods, sense of well-being and choices have an impact on other people’s vibrations and energy. Don’t think you are a prisoner of other people’s influence though. Use this knowledge to create and generate what you desire most. For instance, if you want your family’s life to be more peaceful, you must start working on yourself first and become more peaceful. Your energy will then have an impact on your family and you will see that your family’s dynamic will inevitably change as you change as well.

Concluding Thoughts

I believe by understanding and applying these laws, we can achieve greater well-being. These laws may be unfamiliar to many but they do seem to resonate when we think about past situations and experiences. The quality of our consciousness and the way we look after our five koshas, or bodies, is key to living a life in which we can accomplish what we most desire and thus live happier. These are not easy laws to put into practice but the more mindful you are about them, the easier it will be to respect them and obtain the outcomes you wish for.

Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

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