In the process of facing my codependency and food addiction, I stumbled upon something that Bill Wilson, cofounder of Alcoholic Anonymous, wrote about emotional sobriety. Wilson identified the root of his addiction in codependency and he sought emotional sobriety as the key to deal with it. In his words, emotional sobriety is about giving without expecting to receive in return. I recognise this thought but it’s a hard principle to follow. It has been hard to grow up without comfort and without a sense that I matter and that I’m seen. At what extent am I supposed to work on myself to let that go? Aren’t we all deserving of care?