Personal Musings: The Power of Words

We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Of course, we also use it in the right way, but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison – to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves.

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements

The power of words. According to Brené Brown, language is what allows us to tap into our emotions, and words are the building blocks that shape and give meaning to what we experience as human beings. Words can heal, and words can also destroy. Back in 2017, when I started this blog, I was just coming through a difficult realization. I saw that my decisions had been made out of fear and led me to unhappiness. I was living based on rationality and logic, pursuing an international career in academia while ignoring my dreams of writing, and the need to explore difficult questions. What are we doing here? Why do we look like rats in a cage? Are we alive, or are we pretending to live?

I felt really anguished at that time and yet, at some point, I reminded myself of the questions I had to make to leave such a dark place. What makes me happy? What brings me joy? What do I really love to do? I knew that if I could answer these questions, I would find a way to feel whole again, and overcome the disconnection I was feeling and being haunted by. The disconnection was the fruit of living a life based not on my dreams, talents, and potential, but on what was socially more acceptable and reasonable. The reasonable way seemed to be to buckle up and press forward. It felt wrong deep inside me, but there was no one around to validate my inner vision – and that was my big mistake.

I knew I didn’t fit in, but I presumed I had to keep on trying. The world kept me thinking there was no place for dreamers and wanderers. Books told me otherwise, but then there was reality. I tried to compromise and turned back to writing, which was my happiest place. To write was to go within and dissect what was going on. It was my source of meditation because my writing was close to automatic. I would stare at a blank screen, feel my heart, and then let my fingers do the work. That’s how I found my well-being, and that’s how I started blogging more consistently. The more I wrote and shared my existential quests with others, the more I could understand myself. In the process, I met people with similar experiences, and, when you find yourself on a path less traveled, it’s very rewarding when you find fellow travelers along the way.

Writing became my portal to find resonance and, through that portal, I began to make other changes in my life. I noticed it was up to me to create and shape the world I wished I could live in. I didn’t have to put my ideas and aspirations in a bag. They were not that outrageous and there were people who also wanted to live in a world where reason and emotion meet to provide a more balanced life. It was not silly to want to slow down and craft a different lifestyle. I was not ridiculous for being different and wanting different experiences in my life. These ideas started to boil, and they set me on a path toward moving from survival to thriving.

My writing grew, and so did my audience. I never wrote for numbers, because the real magic was when someone would say my words had resonated and provided some dose of healing. I was first and foremost writing to understand myself better but, through that process, I was also providing a healing space for others, and that’s when I saw, once again, that words have power. The more I wrote, the more I reflected. The more I reflected, the more I healed. The more I healed, the more aligned my decisions were, and it was nice to share the journey with my audience.

I went from what my supervisor called a star-rising mindfulness researcher to a Ph.D. dropout. I swapped a well-paid job as an assistant lecturer in a luxurious university for a low-paid job as a school monitor in a toxic school. I left England and moved back to Portugal. I became happier with each decision I took toward living a life more aligned with who I am. I knew writing and teaching about what I loved the most, the human experience, was deeply carved in my destiny from an early age and it was time to take a leap of faith.

Then the last two years happened. The world confirmed every premise ever written in a social psychology textbook, and my life got to a halt. I didn’t give in to the same fears people around me were choosing to face, but I did let fear rule my life and my decisions. I realized my words could heal others but also hurt those close to me, or even be turned into weapons to hurt me. When you write and share about existential matters, and you bring forward examples of your own journey, you will likely hurt people, so I began limiting myself to more informative blogs.

I didn’t come back to the beginning, because I now know more about myself and what makes me happy, but I have experienced a sort of disconnection from myself, and my well-being has suffered. While writing these words, I now realize I had another important lesson waiting for me. Although I knew my inner vision was shared by some, I hadn’t fully grasped that you can’t live your life waiting on the external world to back you up. You can’t wait on external validation to feel confident or comfortable about the path you know in your gut that is yours to take.

You can’t choose to live in fear and expect to achieve great lengths in your happiness and well-being journey. You can’t wait on other people to reassure you of who you are or to let you know what, when, and how you should go about meeting your personal legend. My calling is to write about human existence and share it with others. That gives me a reason to wake up excited about life, so why on earth would anyone give up on that? Only because of fear! Fear of hurting others, fear of being rejected, fear of being hurt!

So many fears. No human being can be whole by choosing to live in fear. Fear splits us. I’ve done a disservice to you and myself by living in fear for my own words. My words are my journey and my journey is part of my identity. I’m now choosing to live by the first agreement stated in the book The Four Agreements: Be impeccable with your word. This means I will allow myself to use my words again, assuming the responsibility that comes with it, and I will also do my best to have them guided by truth and love. Great responsibility comes when we use our words, but so does great liberation. Thank you for reading my words.

Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

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How to Heal With the Four Elements

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I believe Nature is the mother of all Healing, and there have been plenty of research studies showing how practices such as earthing and walking in nature can benefit our well-being to a great deal. When we immerse ourselves in Nature, we also infuse ourselves with the four elements: air, water, fire, and earth. It’s no wonder why the countryside has been sought for so many to decompress and recharge batteries. Even medieval kings and queens were doing it before it became cool in the twentieth century.

I once came across a statement that made me realize, in a deep way, the value of healing with the elements. It read:

“Place your hands into soil to feel grounded. Wade in water to feel emotionally healed. Fill your lungs with fresh air to feel mentally clear. Raise your face to the heat of the sun and connect with that fire to heal your own immense power.”

Victoria Erickson

It may sound simple but healing can be quite simple indeed as long as you reconnect yourself with Nature. I’ve noticed and experienced the power of healing with the elements quite a few times over the past decade. I’m sure that if you sit down to reflect, you will also recall situations and experiences in which you have tapped into the power of the elements – and benefited from it.

Earth

One of the best memories I have, from when I was a kid, is being at my grandfather’s garden and sitting directly on the ground next to my cousin. We would play with the reddish soil around us and contemplate the big world from that lovely seat that nature had provided us with. The feelings I recall from this experience are safety and security.

Water

Before moving abroad, I started to realize the great impact that diving in the sea had on my mood and energy. Since then, I am always waiting for summertime and the chance to immerse myself in the sea. I come out lighter and more uplifted as if negative energy flows out of me and gets washed off by the salted water.

Air

Another thing that deeply changes my mood and disposition is seeing myself in an open space. The greener, the better. It really broadens up my mental horizons and helps me get perspective onto problems and life situations that need solutions.

Fire

I’m pretty much like a lizard. Whenever the sun is out, I love being outside and feeling it on my skin. I love getting a tan but the greatest thing about being exposed to sunlight is the feeling of being somehow “recharged” and “reenergized” by its healthy heat.

Concluding Thoughts

Nature has great healing power and we can tap into it by connecting and harnessing the energy of the four elements: air, earth, fire, and water. Whatever the element you connect more easily with, you can consciously make the choice of raising your awareness of these elements and build upon their healing properties. Watching and sitting next to a fireplace, enjoying a sea salt bath, or walking in the woods can be recharging and a source of renewal.

Why Decluttering Improves Your Well-Being

After going through a decluttering session, you are likely to feel clearer and more energetic. This is a process that not only improves our physical space but also our headspace. We have more space both physically and mentally, which in turn gives us a certain sense of freedom and clarity. Such experience eventually overflows to other areas of our life.

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The 7 Spiritual Laws Of Success

I have been reading a very interesting book called Quantum Success, written by Sandra Anne Taylor, and published by Hay House. I believe it is a powerful and insightful book for anyone who likes to read and learn more about the spiritual aspects of success, happiness, and wealth. The first part of the book describes and explains the seven laws of success which, according to the author, are transversal to any human endeavor. These laws are the law of Manifestation, the law of Magnetism, the law of Pure Desire, the law of Paradoxical Intent, the law of Harmony, the law of Right Action, and the law of Expanding Influence.

A powerful and insightful book for anyone who likes to read and learn more about the spiritual aspects of success, happiness, and wealth.

The Law of Manifestation

This law suggests that we create our own reality from our consciousness. This means that whatever happens in your life can be traced back to your own stream of consciousness and most people are not aware of such human capacity. In fact, many of us perceive reality as something totally random and out of our control. According to this law, we can manage our lives better if we consciously choose where our awareness and attention go. In other words, if we choose to prioritize what is truly important, and life-enhancing, then we are shaping and creating our future.

The Law of Magnetism

This law tells us that we attract the same type of energy we emit. This energy is imbued with what we think and feel about ourselves, and it is always flowing outward from us. We are continuously broadcasting information about ourselves and the way we perceive life. Based on the Law of Magnetism, it is within our control to change our energy. If we don’t like the situations or life events we attract, then we must pay attention to the signals we have been broadcasting and change our frequency in order to be more aligned and in tune with what we desire. To produce effective changes, there are three aspects to be aware of: your emotional energy (the vibration of your feelings), your cognitive energy (the vibration of your thoughts), and your physical energy (the vibration of your body).

The Law of Pure Desire

The Law of Pure Desire states that if your intention is pure and therefore not manipulative, fear-based, or desperate, then you are in the right energetic vibration to attract and manifest what you desire. Negative emotions and intentions cloud all the potential positive energy you hold toward the accomplishment of your goals and wishes. This happens because negative emotions tend to be more highly charged, a fact that has been demonstrated by science countless times. It has been even proposed that we need at least three positive emotions to counteract the impact of one negative.

The Law of Paradoxical Intent

This law resembles the previous one, the Law of Pure Desire. It suggests that the emotional state driven by the reason why we desire something dictates whether we will be successful or not. In other words, this means that if we desire something and yet we feel desperate about it, then we are generating a repulsive vibration and will push away the desired results. If we trust, however, we will generate a more peaceful vibration and therefore pull in the desired results.

The Law of Harmony

By consciously choosing to create balance and alignment in your life, your intuition and personal energy are almost automatically aligned with abundance, opportunities, and precious insight – or, what Jung called, synchronicities. When we are out of harmony, however, we remove ourselves from such a blissful current and we start to stagnate and find too many hardships. As you may guess, harmony starts with you and your daily choices in terms of thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The Law of Right Action

This is one of my favorite laws and, if you are familiar with Buddhism and more specifically with the Eightfold Path, it will ring a bell for sure. According to the Law of Right Action, every bad or good thought or action you engage with will become part of you and leave an impression in your energy field. In order to have a clear energy field, you must listen to your heart and look for the option which resonates with your own personal sense of dignity. It is not always easy to do what is right, but doing what is right is always the option that generates the best outcome for everyone involved.

The Law of Expanding Influence

As you now know from the previous laws, our vibration depends on the quality of our thoughts, emotions, and actions. The Law of Expanding Influence basically states that our vibration or resonance influences others and vice-versa. This means our thoughts, moods, sense of well-being and choices have an impact on other people’s vibrations and energy. Don’t think you are a prisoner of other people’s influence though. Use this knowledge to create and generate what you desire most. For instance, if you want your family’s life to be more peaceful, you must start working on yourself first and become more peaceful. Your energy will then have an impact on your family and you will see that your family’s dynamic will inevitably change as you change as well.

Concluding Thoughts

I believe by understanding and applying these laws, we can achieve greater well-being. These laws may be unfamiliar to many but they do seem to resonate when we think about past situations and experiences. The quality of our consciousness and the way we look after our five koshas, or bodies, is key to living a life in which we can accomplish what we most desire and thus live happier. These are not easy laws to put into practice but the more mindful you are about them, the easier it will be to respect them and obtain the outcomes you wish for.

Is Happiness a Realistic Goal?

realistic goal and a desirable one. It is rather impossible to be happy all the time, of course, and it is rather difficult to be in a pure state of bliss on a regular basis. However, we can aim to develop skills and strategies that enhance our level of consciousness.

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