The 4 Jewels of Well-being

According to neuroscientist Richard Davidson, well-being is a skill, and it can be developed with practice. It’s like learning to walk or playing the piano. The more you practice it, the more you strengthen the neuronal circuits associated with well-being, and the better you get at it. These neuronal circuits are plastic and thus can be expanded and trained. They are awareness, connection, insight, and purpose.

Awareness

I like to say awareness is your ability to scan reality. As a scanner, you are not meant to process or edit data but to really look at what is there. Mindfulness-based practices, such as mindful coloring or mindfulness meditation, are great tools to develop this circuit and expand your awareness. If you are a beginner in this topic, you can listen to my free guided introduction to Mindfulness Meditation here.

Connection

Human beings are wired for connection and bonding. If you look at the old and yet fascinating experiences of Harry Harlow with baby monkey rhesus, it becomes obvious that the desire to connect with comforting figures fulfills an important need: the need for closeness. Once your basic needs (e.g. food) are satisfied, affection speaks louder and our attention goes towards building empathic relationships with others.

Insight

Know thyself is an ancient adage, supposedly written in Apollo’s Temple at Delphi, Greece. Self-knowledge is essential. Knowing your emotions, thoughts, and modus operandi work as a personal guide and compass. If you don’t invest time in knowing yourself, you will eventually feel lost and with no direction to go. As Socrates said, the unexamined life is not worth living.

Purpose

Through Insight, you can find Purpose and Meaning in life. A person who lives towards a greater purpose has a reason to live, and studies have shown that people with purpose tend to live ten years more. What makes you feel happy and uplifted is linked to your purpose. The more you ignore that, the more likely you are to be depressed, anxious, and even physically sick.

Concluding Thoughts

I would say these four neuronal circuits are the four jewels of well-being. Once you put your effort and attention into developing these, you will be on the fast track towards greater happiness and well-being. Practice takes patience but it also brings great transformation.

Highly Sensitive People Who Are Also High Sensation Seekers

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person and you often find yourself with one foot on the gas, and another on the brake, make sure you find the right balance for you between engaging in stimulating activities and resting. Also, incorporate as many sources of positivity as possible into your daily life as it helps to buffer stress and overwhelm. Take it as an act of self-care and make it a priority. These are healthier ways of getting and recovering from that thrill you seek without harming yourself.

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BOOK REVIEW: How To Make One Hell Of A Profit and Still Get To Heaven by Dr. John Demartini

Are you passionate about a service you wholeheartedly provide and yet feel awkward when it comes to charging for it? Do you struggle to know the value of the work you do? Or did you ever wonder how could you overcome money consciousness issues? If you said yes to at least one of these questions, then Dr. John Demartini’s book is for you.

I included this book on my 2022’s reading list because I wanted to become more confident about putting a value on the services and products I provide to people. I have been always interested in helping others but I never really felt comfortable about charging for my helping services. This is a huge problem when you are in the helping professionals league and you want to take charge of your financial well-being.

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Although I was expecting a lot more from this book, I found precious examples and philosophical nuggets that have inspired me to stay on track and keep learning. My goal is to find solutions that allow me to help other people, which I love to do, and make a living for myself and my family at the same time. After all, if you provide a service or product to people, it’s only fair that you receive something in return, as Dr. John Demartini describes in its “Principle of Fair Exchange”.

Principle of Fair Exchange: Paying a fair price for a fair service in a timely manner. (Dr. John Demartini)

One aspect I love about Dr. John Demartini’s philosophy is that he approaches money and business from both material and spiritual perspectives. He puts great emphasis on the quality of your consciousness and values. If you want to do work that you love, your intent must be fully aligned with your values and the natural laws of the universe. You can find what your intent and values are by putting the book’s exercises into practice. In each chapter, you will find at least two of them.

Philosophy apart, you will also find some investing guidelines in chapter 7, Evolutionary Investing. I found this chapter rather interesting and yet a tad rushed through. After reading it once, you might need to come back to it a few times in order to grasp what Dr. John Demartini suggests you do. I wish the book had more of this kind of information and that it was written in a more intelligible way for those who are not so familiar with money investing.

If you are interested in learning more about how relationships and your life purpose can make a difference in your business development and growth, I highly recommend you this book. It’s a good start to rethink business and to see it as a service to humanity rather than a means to an end. It also helps you feel empowered to pursue a career in which you do what you love, and you are also fairly paid for it. After all, it’s possible as Dr. John Demartini illustrates in this book.

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12 Books to Read in 2022, If You Want to Boost Your Well-being

I compiled a list of 12 books to focus my attention on throughout 2022. These are books I have been really wanting to read and they cover different aspects of well-being. Some are more spiritually inclined (e.g. Alchemy of Light) while others are more finance-oriented (How to Make One Hell of a Profit and Still Go To Heaven).

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BOOK REVIEW: Creative Journal Writing by Stephanie Dowrick

I did enjoy Stephanie’s book a lot and I strongly recommend you to peek on it, if you are into journaling and writing as a method of self-expression and personal transformation. You will find many interesting prompts across the entire book so that you can work your writing flow and perhaps discover more about yourself within specific topics to which you never really paid much attention to.

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What Is Positive Psychology? The Science of Well-being

Positive Psychology is a field of study within Psychology that focuses and promotes well-being and happiness. One of its goals is to help people live and perform at their best by putting people’s strengths and virtues to work for themselves and their community. Although it’s a relatively recent field, Positive Psychology has embraced and researched topics that have been promoted through other psychology branches such as Humanistic and Transpersonal Psychology.

Positive Psychology is a field of study within Psychology that focuses and promotes well-being and happiness.

Some of the themes addressed by Positive Psychology include character strengths and virtues, positive emotion, resilience, growth mindset, positive relationships, and self-development. Positive Psychology does not deny the existence and importance of psychological issues. It offers instead an approach to problems that is solution-oriented and with a greater focus on what human beings need to thrive rather than only survive.

Thanks to the efforts of Positive Psychology researchers and educators, many models have been developed to describe how individuals may lead more fulfilling and happier lives. For instance, Martin Seligman, often considered the “father” of Positive Psychology, proposes a 5-element model of well-being and happiness that includes Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishments. This model has been known as the “P.E.R.M.A.” model and it has been used worldwide. To learn more about it, please consult Martin Seligman’s book Flourish.

Flourishing has been a concept interchangeably used with human well-being in Positive Psychology. Human flourishing can be perceived as a complete state of emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It describes a broad range of states and relevant well-being outcomes such as mental and physical health, happiness and life satisfaction, meaning and purpose, character and virtue, and interpersonal relationships. People flourish when they experience positive emotions, positive mental states, and positive relationships with others.

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