What Does Your Perfect Day Look Like? | Questions to Fall in Love | Q4

I recently started a new series here at thewellbeingblogger.com called “Questions to Fall in Love”. This series was inspired on Stephan’s blog Stories of a Colorful Life and on an experimental Psychology study in which strangers were asked to answer a set of 36 questions. You can know more about this study and its goal here

And this particular post is based on a question that I often ask my clients:

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

The perfect day for me starts with NO alarm. I like to wake up naturally, and whenever the body feels like it is ready. Then I would have a delicious breakfast, preferably outdoors. My perfect breakfast is either an avocado toast with scrambled eggs and pepper OR a nice bowl of oats sprinkled with cinnamon, honey, and banana. Ah, and a nice cup of black coffee with no sugar, because life only starts after coffee! 😋

If I’m by myself, which happens quite a lot, I like to use my laptop and check what’s new on WordPress while I savour my delicious toast. As soon as I finish breakfast, I like to spend some time writing and finish my coffee. Next, weather permitting, I like to go for a long walk until lunch time – ideally next to the seashore or in a beautiful green space.

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I love preparing my meals and that’s one of my favourite ways to practise mindfulness. I opt for doing healthy, nutritious and easy meals – food bowls are my favourites. Next I usually have another coffee and I start working on projects, answering e-mails, or anything else work-related like calling my coaching clients or preparing teaching materials. I often do creative activities in between, but everything depends on my workload and tasks.

At the end of the day, I like to have a small yoga session at home and then prepare dinner and do some grocery shopping in case something is missing. Since it’s a perfect day, I watch the sunset from my balcony (thinking about the house I used to live in Whitstable, UK) and I have a glass of Porto Wine while I feel the nightfall on me.

Afterwards I would then spend some time reading and connecting with other bloggers. Next I would either catch-up with my favourite series or watch a talk / documentary, until I fall asleep. 😴

What about you? What does your perfect day look like? 

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3 Tricks to Get Enough Sleep

The second day of the Wellbeing Challenge on Instagram is dedicated to… getting enough sleep!

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Getting to sleep at a reasonable time (and actually rest) has been really difficult. The crazy anxiety and excitement of moving back to Lisbon for a while and do my own thing, while stop worrying about my PhD right now, have kept me awake and binging both on Netflix and on food.

For the past few weeks, I have fallen asleep only when my eyes no longer can keep up and that is usually around… 5 or 6 am. After waking up 3 days in a row with a huge headache I finally became more active on addressing my problem with sleeping and that’s what I want to share with you in this post.

1. Declutter Your Room

I am a messy person (I’m always honest, you know it!) so the room I live in is more often than not a reminder that chaos and war exist. I live in a mansion and unfortunately I can’t use any other room to store anything or even work from – how sad is that? My room gets to be my office, my bedroom, my crafts room, my lounging room, my reading room… Therefore you can find  all sorts of different things in here, from colouring bottles to a pile of dusty shoes, you pick it and I am sure I will have it. If you live in a similar situation, or you simply have a messy room too, it’s really important to tidy it up as much as possible. Besides tidying up, opening the windows for a long bit can do wonders, since it renews the air in the room. These two things together will send a different subliminal message to your mind – instead of chaos and war, you will have more order and peace, which are much needed for a good night rest.

2. Read Or Watch Something Boring

As I confessed earlier, I have been binging on Netflix and in two weeks I finished Girl Boss, The Haunting of Hill House, and followed the latest episodes of The Good Place. One episode was never just only one episode and my brain would be so engaged with the stories that I would obviously not fall asleep. Why do we keep doing stuff like this, when we know the situation is already bad enough, right? Oh well, the answer is that we are always looking for an easy route to confirm our own very dear sense of failure. So if you do need some minor stimulation before bed, don’t choose anything that will keep your mind wired. Grab that old novel that has been lingering on the back of your drawer instead.

3. Have a Good Reason to Wake Up Early

I think what really worked best for me was to wake up to the idea of pursuing what makes me professionally (and personally) happy. This week I started working with my very first international client. Actually that’s not entirely true, I worked with someone from Taiwan before Summer, but it was the traditional face-to-face meeting. Having my first international client through the phone, however, gave me a lot of stamina and made me remember of my purpose. Most times, we struggle to sleep because we forget about our purpose, our life’s vision. I realise now that it was not enough to simply decide to go back to Lisbon, in order to improve my quality of life. I also needed to get back to my purpose and vision which is to go back to my career as a coach and venture myself internationally (meaning… not only having Portuguese-speaking clients).

What’s your favourite way to get enough sleep? Let us know in the comments box. 😉

 

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Morning Routines: A Breakfast Routine in The Office

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At the moment, I’m choosing to have breakfast in the office most days, at least until I move to a new place, back in Canterbury. This is because the house I have been living in (and sharing with strangers) for over a year now is very small, and the chance of having the time and space to eat a nice breakfast by myself is even tinier. I do like to prepare my food with plenty of peace and space, because as an empath it’s very easy to pick on people’s energy and I don’t really want that to happen in the early hours of my day.

I consider myself however to be very lucky – the building I work at has all I need to prepare breakfast: a microwave, a toaster, and a coffee machine. So when arrive there every morning, I follow pretty much the same steps everyday: I switch on the coffee machine, I put my stuff in the office, I make one or two eggs using the microwave, and I toast half of a bagel.

This is one of the easiest routines I have right now and it doesn’t ‘eat’ much of my time in the morning. Between preparing and eating my breakfast, I probably take me no more than 10 minutes. I usually start working between 9 and 10 am, depending on the time I manage to get up (I’m not using any alarm), and walk out the door.

This routine is very different from the one I used to have in 2016 and 2017, but as you can find out in my posts about morning routines and rituals, the most important thing of a routine is that it fits your needs and current resources. On that note, you can check out my blog post on how to design a morning routine that works for you here, and also know more about the psychology of morning rituals here.

Let me also know in the comments below how does your morning / breakfast routine looks like at the moment, and what other topics would you like me to write about in the near future! 🙂

Success 101: The Psychology of Morning Rituals

I recently shared with you my morning routine. It is one of my favourite rituals and it actually works for me because I see it as a sacred space and time, in which I honour and nurture my body, mind and spirit.

However, I also told you how I used to struggle to get out of bed and make a morning routine plan work. I used to struggle because I did not love the plan I was designing for me each morning. I was trying to follow what other people would recommend as part of an active and healthy morning routine (e.g. go jogging super early in the morning) and not listening at all to what my inner self had to say about it.

Thus there had to be some background work before I reach the point of successfully sticking to a morning routine. I had to dive deep within myself and listen to my body, mind and spirit needs. As soon as I did this exercise, it became clear why I was not being successful with maintaining an active and healthy morning routine.

After knowing how my body, mind and spirit would really like to start the day, I noticed the importance of translating that ideal into a ritual. I wrote down the activities I would perform in my ‘ideal morning’ and broke them into small and basic steps that I would then follow every time I would wake up.

So this is how my morning routine ritual looks like:

  1. wake up gently, preferably without setting an alarm
  2. stretch and expand my body, using all the space I can in bed
  3. change from my pyjama to my yoga pants
  4. wash my face and teeth
  5. drink warm water with lemon
  6. put on my youtube yoga class
  7. prepare a delicious breakfast
  8. start adulting

I find it much easier to keep this routine if I respect and follow these steps. I actually enjoy and feel the need of performing this ritual every single morning. There is no more struggling with getting out of bed and starting the day ahead.

Psychologically, this is possible because repetition is one of the best friends of assimilation and assimilation makes forming healthier habits easier as well. Thus, no matter what time or mood I get up with, I simply embrace my ritual and fall into the virtual sacred space and time that I created for myself. In there, I find the strength to go out and simply rock’n’roll a brand new day.

How To Create A Morning Routine That Works For You

In this blog post I will share with you the most important ingredients to create a morning routine that works best for you. If you prefer, you can now also have access to this blog post in a Podcast format:

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