What Does Your Perfect Day Look Like? | Questions to Fall in Love | Q4

I recently started a new series here at thewellbeingblogger.com called “Questions to Fall in Love”. This series was inspired on Stephan’s blog Stories of a Colorful Life and on an experimental Psychology study in which strangers were asked to answer a set of 36 questions. You can know more about this study and its goal here

And this particular post is based on a question that I often ask my clients:

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

The perfect day for me starts with NO alarm. I like to wake up naturally, and whenever the body feels like it is ready. Then I would have a delicious breakfast, preferably outdoors. My perfect breakfast is either an avocado toast with scrambled eggs and pepper OR a nice bowl of oats sprinkled with cinnamon, honey, and banana. Ah, and a nice cup of black coffee with no sugar, because life only starts after coffee! 😋

If I’m by myself, which happens quite a lot, I like to use my laptop and check what’s new on WordPress while I savour my delicious toast. As soon as I finish breakfast, I like to spend some time writing and finish my coffee. Next, weather permitting, I like to go for a long walk until lunch time – ideally next to the seashore or in a beautiful green space.

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I love preparing my meals and that’s one of my favourite ways to practise mindfulness. I opt for doing healthy, nutritious and easy meals – food bowls are my favourites. Next I usually have another coffee and I start working on projects, answering e-mails, or anything else work-related like calling my coaching clients or preparing teaching materials. I often do creative activities in between, but everything depends on my workload and tasks.

At the end of the day, I like to have a small yoga session at home and then prepare dinner and do some grocery shopping in case something is missing. Since it’s a perfect day, I watch the sunset from my balcony (thinking about the house I used to live in Whitstable, UK) and I have a glass of Porto Wine while I feel the nightfall on me.

Afterwards I would then spend some time reading and connecting with other bloggers. Next I would either catch-up with my favourite series or watch a talk / documentary, until I fall asleep. 😴

What about you? What does your perfect day look like? 

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My 4th Break Up Anniversary

I used to recognize myself
It’s funny how reflections change
When we’re becoming something else
I think it’s time to walk away

Earlier last week I felt compelled to write this post but then I started overthinking it. Should I do it, should I not do it? Should I make it public, should I keep it private? Too many questions and only one need: the need to settle it down.

Four years have past since we parted ways, and last week I ended up breaking down while narrating the story to G. He kept triggering memories of you – the cooking, the washing up, the laughing out loud in bed… you would show up as a flash against my will and the only sense I can make of it is that I need to process the pain I tried to deny all this time.

I would like to say I’m over you, but I think we never get over someone who meant so much to us. I wasn’t happy all the time, I’m sure you were not happy all the time either, but you became someone very special in my life and now it seems to be impossible to keep running away from the pain I didn’t allow myself to feel before. Maybe it’s the fact I’m returning to Lisbon now. Our break up was one of the reasons why I ran away in the first place, and I’m the only one responsible for my own inability to process pain.

I also started seeing your face more often in the street and I guess I have been running away from analysing that. That’s why I am now writing these words because I know writing is the portal through which I have access to the darkest place of my soul and that’s where I have kept you.

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As if seeing your face wherever I go was not enough, I dreamt about you. I don’t know or I can’t remember very well but I saw you and your partner acting distant from each other. It’s probably something I made up in my head but I’m now recalling the last time my mom said she saw you. You were with your girlfriend and still my mom didn’t assume she was so because of the way you interacted with each other. I wonder what is it like for real and whether you sometimes think about how things used to be between us. I also think about whether you hate me. You probably do.

I honestly don’t believe I still love you, except from afar. The main reason I still struggle is because we cut off contact in the weirdest way possible and I felt there was never a true closure. I guess sometimes we are the ones who have to create that closure, but I would like to voice out that I haven’t filled up the void, at least not yet. If I ever see you again, if we bump into each other now that I will be back home for a while, I hope I can openly just smile and that we don’t really trade any words. I just want to smile and feel we are good, whatever path we are walking on, and then part ways so we never see one another ever again. That’s the only closure I would like to get.

And maybe these words are my chance to smile at you and wish that you are alright, that you are happy. I think it’s time for me to let go the pain – feel it, and then let it go, before I even land over there. I deserve a fresh start in my hometown while keeping my sails ready to explore the world and manifest all that my soul has been waiting to do. Letting the ghost of you keep haunting me does me no good…

365 Days of Happiness #BookReview

 

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Do you struggle to find happiness in your day-to-day life? Do you think happiness is something out of reach right now? What if I told you that you can now work your way to happiness, one day at a time? That’s exactly what Jacqueline has to offer you in her high-vibrational book “365 Days of Happiness”.

Jacqueline Pirtle is an incredible energy healer and happiness coach. She has led workshops and many other life-changing events. She integrates aspects such as energy healing, law of attraction, and other holistic approaches to wellness and health. If there’s something Jacqueline knows very well is the importance of becoming aware of our own energy and use it to create and live the best version of ourselves.

Jacqueline does not, however, dismisses the importance of walking the talk as well. In 2017, Jacqueline decided to commit herself to work towards her own happiness and she did so by writing and exploring everyday what makes her happy! The result is an inspirational book which will make you rethink what happiness really means to you as well as support you in the discovery and exploration of different ways through which you can boost your own happiness!

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Each entry on “365 Days of Happiness” was an invitation for me to slow down, to have my hygge moment, and remember myself that happiness can be found literally anywhere I put my attention and awareness on. I often also felt that Jacqueline was just sitting right there, having a cup of tea with me while sharing her inspiring and whimsical reflections on happiness. Each day, there was a new whole conversation to open the doors of my mind and heart!

I want to share with your a passage from Jacqueline’s book that spoke deeply to me:

If you have psychical pain, acknowledge it. Accept, respect, appreciate, thank, and love your pain for the communication it brings. Then find something in your body that represents happiness, and mindfully focus on that. Take, for instance your smile. Mindfully focus on your smile! This will create happy energy in you which you will fill every cell of your body with, initiating health and healing. Practise happy mindfulness at all times! That IS happiness! (Day 250, p. 254)

And happiness is indeed moving our mind and energy to the good that already exists – in ourselves and in the world. Happiness is like a free-flowing intelligence that expands your inner vision and heart space, connecting us to what really matters in life. Hence, if you are looking for a heart-warming and light read on happiness, Jacqueline’s book is one of my book recommendations to you. In it, you will find many thoughts and practical suggestions to find your own way to happiness… and live a more joyful life!

Interested in getting this book? You can find it here.

If you are a Wellbeing author and you would like me to review your book here, please tell me more about you and your book – you send me a direct message here.

How To Put Your Life Together

I’m in the aftermath of some terrible months which have essentially been marked by overwhelming feelings and a deep frustration because most things in my life seem to be stuck and unchangeable. And even though this seems very familiar when thinking about the past few years (to the point that it even became the ‘new normal’), it is certainly not the best way to live for me. So last week I sat down with my laptop and I started typing in a blank page under the title:

“Put Your Life Together”

Even though I’m no longer finishing my PhD in September (had a review meeting last week…), I decided that I can’t keep delaying the changes that I need for myself right now. I have been trying to focus on getting things done as much as I humanly can but the pressure has been so much that I found myself sacrificing my wellbeing again. That in turn makes me feel incredibly miserable and unhappy.

If you follow me on instagram, you might know that I that I have a tattoo on my back which says:

Love yourself. Love your day. Love your life.

And being fuelled by several cups of coffee during the day, working non-stop in front of a computer, and having no sort of positive human interactions are totally incompatible with those three sentences whose purpose was in the first place to remind me of how I should actually live! Instead I have been leading such a terrible lifestyle that I am even ashamed of saying out loud my blog’s URL.

I miss my yoga in the morning, my warm water with lemon, my smoothies and juices, my healthy food, and most of all I miss the overall feeling of being fit (I haven’t done any workout besides walking… and I’m now three sizes bigger because I keep eating to numb my feelings and thoughts!). And it’s because I miss all these good things that I decided it is time to stop letting my current situation (being stuck in this PhD process) overdrive my mood and my wellbeing goals. So while listening to one of D. Carnegie’s audiobooks (“How To Stop Worrying and Start Living”), I decided to put a four-step approach to change in practise on my Google Drive’s blank page:

  1. What needs to change?
  2. What can I do about it?
  3. What is my decision?
  4. What is the next action?

It wasn’t long until I a list of 12 items emerged. From finding a new house and applying for a different job in the local area to buying a gym membership and creating a saving account, the list revealed itself to be quite diverse. Under each item I then started to write a couple of actions that could contribute to the achievement of my overarching goals. I’m not going to share my detailed list, but here are my 12 items:

Put Your Life Together: #TheList

  1. Move house
  2. Change job
  3. Complete PhD thesis
  4. Buy a gym membership
  5. Book a massage
  6. Get a proper bike
  7. Invite JJ, W. and wife to have dinner in the new house
  8. Build-up a nice romantic relationship (forget this item!)
  9. Revamp my blog
  10. Work on my social business plan
  11. Create a saving account
  12. Visit family on a weekend asap

I can tell you that I already started to take action on some of these items. I showed interest in a house back in town, I applied for two jobs that I would sincerely love having, I have been writing up a lot in the last few days, and I also decided to only enjoy my friend’s love-life stories and stop thinking about mine. And… I also got a Thai massage taster today from my friend: actually I spent most of the time laughing because I realised that I’m really in a big physical trouble!