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Stop Denying Yourself: Tips For Highly Sensitive People

In this blog post you will learn about:

  • Highly Sensitive People (HSP)
  • How is it like to be an HSP
  • Why is it so important to express yourself just as you are

The other day I was on the bus and a little magic happened. I have been feeling extremely heavy and “dragged down” over the last couple of years. I’m not going into details now on the reasons behind that feeling, but I just want you to picture me as someone who has a meteor attached to her right foot! Got the picture? So there I was on the bus, carrying that meteor, when suddenly I looked through the window and there was a beautiful sun ready to settle down for another day.

When I fully engaged with feeling the moment instead of perceiving it through my mind’s filters, I suddenly felt light like a feather and as if my body and my mind were now totally merged and floating together in the ether. Of course, tears started streaming down my face, and I honestly let them roll behind my aviator sunglasses.

And then a question came to my mind: when was the first time that I felt this “tight”, as if I was constantly wearing a corset? When did I start denying myself, my emotions, and my feelings? When did I convince myself that it was not ok to be “just me”, this being who embraces the full spectrum of raw emotions?

I’m what researchers now call “highly sensitive person” (HSP) and to explain you what that means nothing better than provide you here with a description I found on Dr Elaine Aron’s website, the author of the book “The Highly Sensitive Person”:

(…) the highly sensitive person has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is more easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment. But the key quality is that, compared to the 80% without the trait, they process everything around them much more—reflect on it, elaborate on it, make associations.  When this processing is not fully conscious, it surfaces as intuition.

In a nutshell, HSPs feel “everything in every way”. That makes our lives a bit chaotic but it also explains the richness that more often than not we can only convey by putting our creativity to work. According to research, we represent only 15 to 20% of the population. I guess that’s why for me it is always so hard to find people I can deeply relate to and become friends with. HSPs crave those raw, deep connections from the heart.

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However, the social norm most of us have been raised in does not accept or understand the way HSPs perceive and interact with the world. We are often categorised as “shy” and “introverted” people, when actually we just need to have periods of time in which we can disconnect from the wide range of stimuli we face nowadays. And to be honest again… we don’t really enjoy being stimulated all the time. In fact, overstimulation is basically the death of our sanity.

The hardest part, I think, is to make people understand that we feel intensely not by choice but by nature. I now understand too why so many guys couldn’t simply “handle” me. They were half-right when they said that “I am too much”, because I do feel indeed too much. They were also, however, half-wrong, because HSPs have the same right of being as anyone else and we shouldn’t be forced to shut ourselves down just because we use different strategies in life.

Moreover, trying to fit in as an HSP in a world that is currently led by robots-alike can be very draining and destroying. The more we try to fit in by hiding our intense emotions, the sicker we become. The more we convince ourselves that there is something “wrong” with us, the more we despair and the more wounded our core gets. That’s why we need to stop denying ourselves completely and to come clear about our true nature. We are so few that we do need to be each other’s lighthouse.

Stop denying yOurself

For more information on my own experience as an HSP, please watch the YouTube video above where I share some more personal details and please let me know whether you would like to learn more about HSPs and the way we “function”. If you think you might be one, say ‘Hi’ in the comments and let’s connect.

Minimalism: 4 Decisions to Make Your Life Easier

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Minimalism:

a style or technique (as in music, literature, or design) that is characterised by extreme spareness and simplicity  (as in Merriam Webster Dictionary)

I like the idea of minimalism. When I moved to the UK I adopted that concept: I managed to emigrate with one cabin bag and nothing else. Three years later, my office is filled with boxes and I can barely walk into my tiny room. So the bad news is that I have been accumulating a lot of stuff; the good news is that I am moving out soon and therefore I have a brand new opportunity to practise MINIMALISM once again.

If you are not aware of the concept yet, I totally recommend you to watch a documentary produced by two American dudes who decided to embrace and teach the concept to the wider community.

 

There are a lot of benefits associated with going “minimal”: you will (probably) feel that order has been restored in your life, you will feel psychologically lighter… and you won’t have the same trouble I’m now having to move out and take everything with me. The truth is… I don’t want to take everything with me: I actually want to review every single thing I possess right now and make one of the following decisions:

Decision #1: Throw it away

Everything that is broken and has no possible use must go straight away to the rubbish bin. EVEN if it has great sentimental value.

Decision #2: Sell it 

Items that I bought and which I barely used are probably a possible source of income, so they will be listed on the Facebook’s marketplace. If you are in the UK, you may want to check what is on my selling list at the moment:

Decision #3: Donate it

Everything that it’s not easy to sell online (e.g. clothes) goes directly to charity shops!

Decision #4: Keep it

Everything that is essential to my daily living… moves with me.

Sounds simple right? The challenge only comes up when you are actually reviewing your suff and deciding what you are going to do with them! You must be brave and follow the rules of your own kind of minimalism… if not, you risk moving out with a lot stuff you don’t actually need!

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Morning Routines: A Breakfast Routine in The Office

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At the moment, I’m choosing to have breakfast in the office most days, at least until I move to a new place, back in Canterbury. This is because the house I have been living in (and sharing with strangers) for over a year now is very small, and the chance of having the time and space to eat a nice breakfast by myself is even tinier. I do like to prepare my food with plenty of peace and space, because as an empath it’s very easy to pick on people’s energy and I don’t really want that to happen in the early hours of my day.

I consider myself however to be very lucky – the building I work at has all I need to prepare breakfast: a microwave, a toaster, and a coffee machine. So when arrive there every morning, I follow pretty much the same steps everyday: I switch on the coffee machine, I put my stuff in the office, I make one or two eggs using the microwave, and I toast half of a bagel.

This is one of the easiest routines I have right now and it doesn’t ‘eat’ much of my time in the morning. Between preparing and eating my breakfast, I probably take me no more than 10 minutes. I usually start working between 9 and 10 am, depending on the time I manage to get up (I’m not using any alarm), and walk out the door.

This routine is very different from the one I used to have in 2016 and 2017, but as you can find out in my posts about morning routines and rituals, the most important thing of a routine is that it fits your needs and current resources. On that note, you can check out my blog post on how to design a morning routine that works for you here, and also know more about the psychology of morning rituals here.

Let me also know in the comments below how does your morning / breakfast routine looks like at the moment, and what other topics would you like me to write about in the near future! 🙂